Working Mama

Today marks one month since I officially started my new job ! Yay!

It feels great. It’s been a long and stressful journey but I am extremely thankful, appreciative of the opportunity that came my way and proud of myself for not giving up. I have now officially joined the #workingmama group and LORD it is HARD! I have gained so much respect for all these women out there that juggle between their careers, marriage/relationships, motherhood and self-care because it is a lot to handle!

Thank you, for believing in me. Thank God for teaching me patience and resilience. Last year I prayed for more strength and the challenges and hardships I have faced thus far definitely proved me that I am capable to overcome anything.

We can accomplish it all

I admit it, I still feel lost. I often doubt myself and my abilities to overcome this new challenge but that’s something we can all relate to. Truth be told, I am grateful i was able to stay at home for the first 10 months of my daughter’s life. The bond we have created, beyond sharing the same body for almost a year, is so strong and filled with love and awe that I can never regret this break.

The past four weeks have been quite challenging. The three of us had to readjust our routines, find and establish one that would work with our different schedules. For the first time ever we considered and hired a nanny to complement daycare. We’re still trying to figure it out and there sure isn’t a one solution-fits-all for situations like these.

As far as my personal goals, I am focusing my energy into establishing a career plan that will allow me to remain active and engaged in all the different parts that make me a WOMAN! I do question my decision daily to go to work while I would rather stay home with my baby. I am scared of missing out; scared not to be there when she needs me.

Anybody can be a role model

I received lots of encouragement and love from my friends and family starting this new journey. This made me realize that I had become a role model. To think that I have younger ladies in my circle telling me that I inspire them made me embrace my journey even more. While I don’t necessarily see myself as a leader in that sense, I am honored to have empowered them to pursue all of their dreams without limitations.

It is crucial for young girls and women to thrive at any levels of their lives. Walking away from the status quo and believing they can become whomever they want is something I want my daughter to believe and abide by ! You can have a successful career as well as a family and anything else that fuels us.

Regardless of your age or status, you can become a role model. Most importantly, we should always surround ourselves with people who push us; people that force us to get out of our comfort zones and embrace adversity as a push rather than a setback.

You make your own rules

I am African, Black, a Wife, a Mother and an aspiring Executive woman. My gender nor my culture or religion do not limit or define me. I am strong, successful and beautiful. This is my manifesto, my testimony. May this show you all what WE women are capable of everything  and we shall always go after we desire most!

The road to success is paved with many challenges and obstacles. The best ally we should always have is ourselves. A support system is good but easily becomes ineffective when we ourselves lack the drive and desire to realize our dreams.

Dream on. Keep at it and trust God.

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That time I almost quit my internship

Why is it that I can’t seem to find the inner strength to stick to an internship for more than 3 months and keep it interesting at the same time ?

Have you ever had that one internship that you absolutely love but simply hate going to? I am sure we have all been there once but honestly, I think it is becoming a habit for me. At some point, I just can’t take the BS anymore, no matter how interesting, rewarding or challenging the position is. Why is it that I can’t seem to find the inner strength to stick to an internship for more than 3 months and keep it interesting at the same time?

yup-i-freakin-quitFirst, I get bored easily. I need to be in a working environment that stimulates me on a daily basis. I need to feel involved and work on projects that tick my curiosity allows me to be creative while teaching me new skills. I  cannot be satisfied with seating at my desk, browsing the internet, from 9 to 5, especially if I am not in my pajamas!

Second, I deeply despise the lack of organization. As my manager or supervisor, you need to think about a working plan before I start my assignment; otherwise I don’t see why you would even hire an intern. An internship is supposed to benefit the organization and trainee who expects to gain critical skills for their future job. An internship will also determine what type of company, industry and environment a young professional wants to work in. I look at every position as an open window into workplace, hoping it will help me decide what paths to choose in my professional career.

3pcsjiLast but not least, unpaid internships are the number one factors of disengagement in people. This common practice in the United States resembles slavery in most cases as interns’ performances often equal those of full-time staff members. As Governor Cuomo recently ratified the minimum wage increase in New York State, a few lucky people will get to enjoy a 15$ hour-rate while the rest of us, international students and illegal workers, have to comply with stupid work restrictions and regulations.

As a Millennial, I don’t think I necessarily enjoy quitting jobs but sometimes, it appears as if it is the only option available. When I start resenting my workplace and colleagues, I just cannot fake it anymore: I have to go. (And it shows on my face!) In order to maintain my work ethics, performances and to prevent damaging the relationships I built, I need to distance myself and look for other opportunities. “The biggest driver of disengagement is people feeling like they’re stuck in a job, and there’s nothing for them there” (Business Insider).

Maybe I am the problem, maybe I idealize my job too much. I like to believe that the perfect opportunity has not shown up yet and I must keep searching. Will I leave my current position? I don’t know yet. One thing is sure, once my mind is set to it, I will walk out, unapologetic.