The 25th Birthday wishlist 

“Me season” is finally around the corner and I get to be spoiled with the most extravagant and fabulous gifts!!

The most exciting part of my birthday is dreaming about all the things I want and will request unapologetically from my loved ones ! *devil laugh*

“Me season” is finally around the corner and I get to be spoiled with the most extravagant and fabulous gifts :p. What’s the point of aging if I can’t look or feel fabulous? In case you are still wondering what to get me on my special day, this should help you.

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I hate surprises because I never know what to expect or what to wear so one word of advice: Do Not Plan Me a Surprise Birthday party or dinner. I will literally hate you for the rest of the year because:

  1.  It will ruin my makeup cause i’m a cry baby;
  2. I don’t trust you ! lol no but seriously;
  3. I will find out somehow – don’t ask me how, I just know when people are scheming;
  4. I don’t know how to fake my facial expressions so you’ll see right away if I’m either pissed or annoyed;
  5. Just don’t do it. Please. Even if it comes from a good intention, I just hate not having control;
  6. Unless you’re flying me somewhere with a beach, plenty of sun and a bottle of Vouvray :p

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Although I don’t necessarily expect presents this year – except from my parents and bae – the best thing that could happen on October 11 is knowing that you’re still here, somewhere, and you are watching over me because I still can’t believe that you won’t be there to celebrate with me.

Turning 25: Excitement or Frustration?

As my 25th birthday approaches, I have been asking myself: Am I really ready to be an ADULT?

As my 25th birthday approaches, I have been asking myself: Am I really ready to be an ADULT? I mean, that’s some serious conversation to have with yourself, ready or not, s**t is about to get real! I looked into a few articles and old sayings about reaching the quarter of century milestone and found out about the “Quarter-Life Crisis.” So according to this article, it is completely normal for me to doubt my abilities to succeed as an adult and that made me feel a little better…

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Here are 25 life lessons I have learned before turning 25:

  1. Learning how to let go because I am a control-freak and I do not like surprises – unless they come in a beautifully wrapped package or rhyme with unlimited credit card! 🙂
  2. I am my worst enemy. I was raised to be a perfectionist, a competitor, an overachiever and, failure was never an option. I tend to forget that I am only human and mistakes and disappointments are also part of growing up.
  3. Learning how to say no to my loved ones was eye-opening. Blame it on my Libra sign, we don’t like conflict, although we make good diplomats, we will dismiss ourselves from such situations.
  4. Being selfless and forgetting to care for me first. I would go out of my ways for the people I care about, regardless of whether it is reciprocal.
  5. Not everybody will be happy about your success and that is okay. I have learned how not to take it personally at occasions and, to call some people out on their BS because honestly: Ain’t Nobody Got Time For That!
  6. It’s okay not to be ok because life is a b***h and crush us sometimes. I had to face my insecurities and to battle my fear of deceiving my entourage and I guess that is something we all have in common.
  7. People grow apart, relationships fail and that’s just life. People will come and go, become strangers to each others and though it sucks, it happens. Learn the lesson and move on.
  8. Be more patient. When I want something, I want it now and thank to my partner who is a constant reminder that rushing and jumping to conclusions only brings worry.
  9. Less is more – meaning that not every major event in your life deserves public attention. Learning what to say and to whom is crucial and sometimes people don’t care as much as you do.
  10. Trust your guts, always! You know yourself better than anyone else so when something feels or looks weird, listen. You might not see it now but soon enough you’ll be swamped by “what ifs.”
  11. The person you are madly in love right now might not be the one you will spend the rest of your life with.
  12. Holding grudges is unhealthy and only causes heartaches, even though I still struggle with this myself, but I constantly remind myself that it is not worth the drama and sleepless nights.
  13. Compulsive shopping is only a short-term solution. Either you have a Carrie Bradshaw walk-in closet or you have a credit card that never says no (lucky you).
  14. Multi-tasking will save your life. Seriously. It is almost impossible today to juggle between school, work, exercising and having a social life if you have poor time-management skills.
  15. Travel! Whenever you have the opportunity, please do it! This is the moment in your life when you want to be adventurous and discover foreign territories – even if that means going to another state or backpacking in Southeast Asia – it will change your conception of society.
  16. Collect timeless pieces. It could be art, jewellery, shoes & bags, vinyls or even furniture. You can pass it on to your children or grand-children and you get to brag about it to your friends! 🙂
  17. Exercise. I never thought how important it was until I integrated into my routine. Working out has helped me release my stress, anxiety, depression and rediscover what my body was capable of. It doesn’t matter what level you’re on, the goal is to learn how to listen to your body and honestly, who doesn’t want a great butt?
  18. Listen to your mom. Growing up, I’ve always been closer to my father because that was just the dynamics in my family. As I grew older, I realized that she was the most resourceful person in my life and that I almost always needed her opinion on every major decisions I made. Don’t get it wrong, I am very close to both of my parents but a mother-daughter has no comparison!
  19. Know who your core friends are and keep them close. These are the one to recognize the signs when something is wrong before you even pick up the phone. You don’t need to talk everyday but somehow, you always find your way back. It’s like home.
  20. Keep a journal of your thoughts, ideas and review them regularly. I always find it interesting to read old notes because they really show how much I have changed in only  a few years. 
  21. Know the difference between privacy and secrecy. You have the right to your secret garden; that doesn’t mean you are hiding stuff from your partner, family or friends.
  22. Going natural is not an easy process! When I decided to stop relaxing my hair, obviously I knew it would take some time getting used to it. Who like stepping out of their comfort zone? No one! However, it definitely taught me how to be more accepting of my natural features.
  23. Life is not a race but a journey to be savored each step of the way. Stop comparing yourself to others or trying to fit into a model set by your parents or family. You will set yourself for failure, frustration and expensive therapist sessions!
  24. Develop a spiritual relationship. Religion has always had a great role in my life and kept me grounded. My faith helped me overcome a number of obstacles I never thought I could at times. 
  25. There is always room for improvement, as long as you allow it. Don’t stay fixated on mistakes or actions from the past but instead, look forward and learn from them. Nobody said you had to get it right on the first try and, even if you do, you can always do better! At least, that’s what I tell myself.

 

September blues

September blues: “The feeling of sadness that occurs when the summer is over and school is now in session.”

September blues: “The feeling of sadness that occurs when the summer is over and school is now in session.”

Goodbye hot and humid days; farewell sunny dresses and fancy sunglasses; adieu squeaky flip flops and open toe sandals. In three days, summer will officially be over to let place to the cooler and rainier season: Fall. Although I must admit I was excited to transition from the suffocating New York City summer to the autumnal scene; bringing along the yellow, orange and red leaves on trees and fallen on the ground; the cozy and warm sweaters or to the indoor weekends and finally taking my AC out of my window (nobody likes mosquitoes, especially if they carry the Zika virus): I am NOT ready.

september-bluesSeptember doesn’t only mean summer is over but also going to back to graduate school, starting a new internship and attempting to get back to a more decent sleep routine. Yes, vacation is “officially” over and this is the time of the year where excitement and nostalgia kick in almost silmutaneously – merh.

How to beat the September blues?

Fall season is not just all gloomy or melancholic; it can actually be very exciting, especially in a city like New York where you get a first-hand experience of the Fashion week and of its amazing street style. It is finally acceptable to start wearing darker lipstick (although burgundy is my all-time favorite) and dust off your favorite pair of boots that has been sitting in your closet all summer! September also brings back the excitement of Halloween and the long and indecisive planning sessions with friends about what costumes and parties to attend which honestly allows me escape my 9-to-5 routine.

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This season, I can’t wait to catch up the new seasons of my favorite TV shows – Scandal, How to Get Away With Murder, American Horror History, Empire, The Vampire Diaries & The Originals – to name a few and, start new ones like Atlanta and Queen Sugar (check them out). There is also the return of the NBA season where I can’t wait to see how Kevin Durant fits into his new team and how him joining the Golden State Warriors is going to help bring the championship back to the Bay!

This Fall 2016, Don’t Forget to vote! 

greatquickmemeOn a more serious tone, Fall also means that in a couple of months, America will be voting on their new leader and honestly, this is the most terrifying time of all as the gap between Hillary Clinton and  Donald Trump keeps shrinking. To all of my U.S. citizens in age of voting: PLEASE REGISTER and make sure to VOTE on Tuesday, November 8 because your action and/or inaction will not only determine the lives of your fellow Americans but also those of the millions of immigrants in the country. 

So we have a pretty busy schedule this fall and although it might seem overwhelming right now, let’s not forget that “every season brings a reason to be happy” (yes this is from Winnie the Pooh)!

First blog post

Well well well, if this isn’t the funniest and scariest part of blogging: THE first blog post!

 

img_1250When I woke up this morning, I never imagined that I would be spending the majority of my Saturday  creating, editing and well, blogging. Yet, here I am, trying to pass this nerve-wracking test that is my first ever post on Blurred-Heritage. I tried to think about ideas and structures for this post while in the shower – how to avoid the boring introduction or captivate the attention of the reader – but I realized that this is only my first post after all.

First and foremost, let me reiterate the whys or mission statement of this online journal. Although I had been contemplating blogging for some time, it never really stuck to my mind as part of my brand or what I believed in. As a very private person, I tend to back out whenever asked to share personal information, especially on the internet (trust issues maybe?). I have been asked for educational purposes in college to create a blog in order to express my opinions on the news  but that stopped there; I never felt the urge to make this a regular habit.

You might ask yourself: “why now?” – Good question. I don’t think I can come up with a good answer but I hope that together, we will find answers in this journey. However, this quote from my dad that has been my “motto” for the past seven years might help you understand a little something about me: “il n’y a pas de hasard, il n’y a que des rendez-vous du destin.” Yes, this is french, but what it means is that nothing happens by chance, it is all fate.

Here I am, twenty-four days away from celebrating my quarter of century (you do the math) and, still trying to find my purpose in the beautiful city of New York that I am proud to call my home now. Blurred-Heritage defines the state of mind that I have been in for the past four years. I moved to NYC to pursue my masters in Global Affairs at New York University and that should have been it. I guess fate had other plans because I am still here, going for my second M.S. in Public relations this time, still at NYU but with different objectives and dreams in mind.

Starting  from today, this blog will trace my journey, in the form of a journal sometimes, but mostly as a tool to practice my writing while sharing my thoughts. This is my safe space, opened to you, where you will find stories, memories, pictures that inspire, intrigue and challenge me.

Welcome to Blurred-Heritage!